Succeeding To Fail: A Path to Transformation

by Aug 19, 2020Perspectives on Coaching0 comments

In failure, we succeed.  Our success is chronicled in increased self-knowledge and discovered opportunities for growth and transformation.  Failure and success are allies.  They create conditions enabling us to be responsible for our decisions and accountable for results.  For many, the relationship between success and failure is a mystery, a conundrum characterized by contentiousness and complexity.  Success and failure share a multi-dimensional, symbiotic relationship; continuous and causal.  Their interaction is powerful and potent able to fuel success or failure.  A key to harnessing the power inherent in their relationship is transforming failure into a constructive learning experience.  Failure is a litmus test of character.  It tests our mettle and challenges our resolve to succeed.  Failing offers us opportunities to become architects or victims of our own future.  It provides us with the insights and experiences necessary to build character and realize our possible selves.

How can failure enable your success? How can coaches enable us to be productive and become our best selves supporting us in to succeed when facing failure. Consider how coaches can help you implement the 3R’s; Reflection, Resolve and Respond associated with managing failure toward success.


Reflection is an acquired practice.  It requires intention and attention to develop and apply.  For many, the skills associated with reflection must be learned.  Learning to be reflective can be unfamiliar even disquieting as thoughts and actions are examined relative to new ideas and opportunities.  In his 1933 book How We Think, the American philosopher and educational reformer John Dewey offered three orientations promoting reflective practice; open-mindedness, responsibility, and wholeheartedness.  These orientations can serve as conceptual frameworks for determining if we possess these qualities associated with reflection.  To test your reflective capacity, apply Dewey’s three orientations to your thoughts and behaviors relative to learning, grow, T innovate.  Failing to reflect undermines success.  However, successful failure yields information and inferences that can stimulate reflection.  Reflection enables success.  It is the reflective journey inward, examining attitudes, behaviors, and values associated with failing. Reflection can render resolve to reengage a goal refreshed and reconfirmed.  However, if reflection reveals that activities that you are engaged in are not meaningful, consider them misaligned with your desires. Therefore, quit quickly, completely, and do not look back.  Stop investing yourself and resources in ultimately unproductive endeavors.


Resolution is a pivot point.  It is a nexus of intersecting streams of data, thought, and reflection franked with the stamp of decision and imprinted with the indicia of determination.  Reflection requires resoluteness.  We must resolve to be reflective in order to strengthen our resolve, in turn, generate the courage necessary to transform failure into success.  British Prime Minister Sir Winston Churchill wrote, “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”  Courage enables success.  Being courageous enough to examine our failures critically can prove transformational.  Consider the case of the British vessel HMS Resolute.  In 1853 on an arctic expedition, the ship was trapped in ice and abandoned by its crew.  In 1854, it was found adrift in an ice flow. Then, in 1856, the ship was returned to Queen Victoria.  In 1879, the HMS Resolute was retired and disassembled.  The next year, 1880, the British government commissioned two large partner desks to be constructed from its timbers; one presented to then United States President Rutherford B. Hayes and the other given to Queen Victoria.  Today, the presidential resolute desk is the centerpiece of the Oval Office, having served every president since being received as a gift.

The HMS Resolute in name and legacy is a model of resolve.  During its commission, the ship served proudly and purposefully, surviving numerous challenges to its survival and success. Then, in the end, when the ship was dissembled, its builders resolved that it would realize a new destiny, one with a purpose they had not foreseen 30 years earlier.  It would become an instrument of State, a desktop on which presidents would sign the documents of history.  The HMS Resolute fulfilled a destiny of transformation.  Resolve empowers progress, fulfills destiny, and enables possible selves.


Reflection and resolve fuel response.  Responding is purpose-in-action.  When we determine a productive course of action in order to achieve a goal, the result may be a failure.  However, the seeds of future success may be present in unsuccessful action.  The American statesmen and inventor Benjamin Franklin wrote, “I didn’t fail the test.  I just found 100 ways to do it wrong.” Franklin’s response to failure reflects his resolve to reengage and respond to each wrong way in order to find the right way to achieve desired results.  He forged ahead with courage and conviction open-minded, responsible, and wholehearted.  Franklin’s willingness to fail enabled his success.  Reflection, resolve, and responsiveness served as beacons lighting his way toward transformation. 

Harness the power and potential inherent in failure to fuel your success.

Coaching can help coachee’s traverse the path from failure to success.

*Originally published in the Mann Report, September 2011.

This article was adapted from this article.

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